The Power of Silence: What Beatboxing Taught Me About Speaking
Back in my beatbox battle days, I figured out a trick that won me a lot of battles. I knew I wasn’t the most technical beatboxer on the stage — but I was a great musician. So my strategy became simple: What can I do that others can’t or wouldn’t think of?
In the early 2010s, the scene was all about speed and complexity — the faster and flashier, the better. So naturally, I decided to do the opposite. In the middle of my battle routines, I’d suddenly break the rhythm apart and fill the air with so much silence you could hear a pin drop. Then, right when the tension hit its peak, I’d slam the snare right back on beat — same tempo, same control.
The crowd always loved it. The YouTube commenters? Not so much. “How can she beat that guy when she barely did anything?!”
But here’s the thing — those in the room knew. The silence commanded the stage. The rest, the space, the stillness — it signaled control. And when I dropped that snare perfectly in time, it showed mastery, confidence, and precision. What I didn’t realize then was that the same silence that gave me authority on stage was the one thing I ran from off stage.
I’m a recovering chronic space filler. At dinner parties, business meetings, and interviews, I felt the need to fill every pause. To keep the conversation flowing. To make sure there were no awkward gaps. But the more I talked, the more my message got lost. In print interviews, journalists paraphrased instead of quoting me. On video, I sounded scattered and rushed.
Then it hit me — I was the problem. I wasn’t being clear. I wasn’t giving my words space to breathe. Why did I feel so powerful with silence on stage, but powerless with it in conversation? Then it clicked. The silence.
That realization changed everything. I started letting others fill the space in conversations. I practiced holding eye contact and breathing before jumping in. I stopped fearing pauses and started listening. Before interviews, I prepped my key messages. I said what I needed to say in one or two sentences — and stopped talking. The result? For the first time, journalists could actually quote me word for word.
That’s the power of silence.
Silence in communication is like rhythm in music — it’s what makes the sound mean something. Pauses highlight key ideas, give listeners time to process, and make your message stick. They’re the difference between noise and impact. When you pause, you show confidence. You signal to your audience: “This matters.” And they respond by listening more deeply. On stage or in conversation, the most powerful sound you’ll ever make… is the silence that follows something worth saying.
The Research:
What was the test?
Researchers looked at how intentional pauses in conversation affect how listeners respond and how they perceive the speaker. The researchers combined field data (real-world conversational interactions) with controlled laboratory experiments. They focused particularly on how pauses encourage listeners to give short verbal assents (things like “yeah,” “uh-huh”) and how that in turn influences perception of the speaker.
What did they find?
When the speaker paused at strategic moments, listeners were more likely to respond with short verbal signals of attention (back-channels) such as “uh-huh” or “yeah”.
These verbal signals weren’t just filler — they correlated with the listeners’ rating the speaker as more likable and more persuasive. The presence of listener assent seemed to signal that the listener was engaged and on board.
The key insight: Pausing isn’t simply silence. It creates space for interaction — the listener fills that space with assent, which reinforces the speaker’s credibility and rapport.
Why this matters:
When you pause strategically, you aren’t losing momentum — you’re inviting engagement.
Engagement (listeners actively giving verbal signals of attention) leads to increased connection and trust in the speaker.
In practical terms, the speaker who never pauses may feel like they’re “in control”, but they might actually be missing cues that the audience is processing, engaged, or ready to respond.
The speaker who uses pauses well triggers interaction, captures attention, and improves how their message is received — not just delivered.
Real-world application:
In meetings or speaking engagements: insert brief, deliberate pauses after key statements to allow listeners to mentally “catch up” and perhaps respond (even non-verbally).
In team conversations, pausing gives your team members space to step in, add their assent or ideas, which builds co-ownership rather than you always driving.
In interviews or one-on-one conversations: after you make your point, pause — this gives the listener a chance to reflect → ask → engage → value what you said.
5 Takeaways on the Power of Silence
1. Silence is punctuation. After a powerful idea, stop. Let it land.
2. Confidence lives in the pause. Comfort in silence signals authority, not hesitation.
3. Quiet moments make them remember. The brain marks pauses as emotional punctuation, making stories stick.
4. Let others fill the space. Listening is where connection, not control, begins.
5. Pauses give permission. They tell your audience it’s okay to think, react, and engage.
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